Take the Help, Momma

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Here’s my November entry for KMB. If it resonates with you, I hope my message provides you comfort.

Until next time,

LHB

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Hear Me Out (Again)

As you may remember from this post, I love some good tunes.

Today while scanning satellite radio stations, I came across The Message channel. As the name might imply, this is Christian pop/rock music. I’ll be honest, I’ve never been one to really get into praise/worship music despite growing up in the buckle of the Bible Belt. I’ve always just felt it was too much…too intense…trying a little too hard.

But on this chance encounter, “Thy Will” by Hillary Scott was playing. If you’re at all familiar with country music, you may recognize the name Hillary Scott as being one of the members of a super-group known as Lady Antebellum.

Love Remains

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I was stopped in my tracks by how amazing this song was. I hopped on iTunes at the next red light to search out what I had just heard. Turns out, with backup from her family (who are also musicians, apparently) and legendary musician/producer Ricky Skaggs, Hillary Scott released a Christian music album in 2016 called “Love Remains”.

Scott Family

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I am absolutely in love with this record. It’s a great mix of bluegrass, gospel, pop, and country.

If you’re looking for something new to listen to, and Christian music is something that doesn’t scare you off, check this one out. Other than the overtly Jesus-based message, it doesn’t remind me at all of the Christian music I’ve heard on the radio over the years. Hillary Scott’s amazing vocals and the musical styles on the record are (in my opinion) too good to pass up.

Until next time,

LHB

Why I Don’t Feel Guilty About Self Care (And You Shouldn’t Either)…

I’m what some people would call high maintenance.

I work a full time job, my husband travels off and on for work, and we have a 5 year old daughter. Being a part of the team that keeps all of those parts a float, I’ve worked hard over the years to determine what self care methods are must haves to keep me happy, healthy, and functioning well.

I’m beyond lucky and grateful to have a husband that supports and encourages this necessary self-care, even if he doesn’t always have the chance to take care of his own must haves (I’m trying to help, I promise).

Here’s what I’ve found that works best for me:

  • I get my nails done, regularly. I have an amazing nail tech that I’ve formed a wonderful relationship with in the past year, that’s within walking distance of my office. I may go on lunch or sneak out of work a little early (don’t tell!)…but I make sure I have an appointment with her monthly.
  • I keep my hair nearly pixie length, so it requires attention every 4 weeks. I have a regularly scheduled date with my hairdresser to keep my brows waxed, hair trimmed, and highlights on point (if the season calls for it).
  • Exercising a few times a week help keeps me sane. I’m not sure if I would really classify this as self-care, sometimes it just feels like one more thing to do. But I notice a big difference on days that I don’t exercise versus days that I do. Unless I just can’t even one day, I do my best to exercise 4 times a week on my lunch hour since the local YMCA is 1/4 mile from where I work.
  • I try to be active in the community in areas that interest me, when I can…writing for Knoxville Moms Blog, participating in Young Professionals of Knoxville, and working for a local non-profit are what’s on my plate right now. Being involved in these various groups call for attendance at events and activities from time to time. I use them as an opportunity, where appropriate, to get all gussied up and leave our kiddo at home. She gets bonding time with her Dad and I get to talk with other adults about shared interests and common topics. Win-win.

You may read this list and think I’m bragging. In a way, I am. I have an amazing husband and support system of babysitters that I can rely on to get my self-care needs met and for that I am eternally grateful.

If you’re not doing the work to take care of yourself, I highly recommend taking some time to figure out what you can do to change that.

Is finding a babysitter an issue? Reach out to friends and family or an online directory of sitters that could assist you.

Is money a concern? Check online for ideas to create your own at-home spa day.

Are you just too tired? Try your hardest to take at least 5 minutes to yourself, every day, to mentally check in – how you’re feeling emotionally and physically, what tasks do you need to complete? Even if you’re hiding in the closet with a mini Milky Way, just to get some quiet time away from your kids, do what works!

Don’t feel selfish or guilty about taking care of yourself. I know I don’t. It makes me a better mom and wife when I make sure my needs are known and met. And who doesn’t appreciate that?!

Until next time,

LHB